First, let me be upfront and admit that I am a serial cheater. I live a very sad and lonely existence and if this blog can help one person understand the dynamics of serial cheating maybe there is hope for you. You need to stop because there is never a happy ending to this story for anyone involved. Second, I apologize if you are the woman who has been victimized by someone like myself. I know the magnitude of the havoc this behaviour wreaks on everyone involved including the littlest victims, the children.
I call myself an expert on this subject matter because I have been cheating and stealing husbands for over 25 years. That definitely makes me an expert in the subject of cheating. So sad. Let me try and educate you on the type of woman to be aware of. I don't have to tell you that this is the woman you cannot trust around your husband. She really doesn't care that you are happily married or so it seems, have 2.5 children, are planning a family vacation, and live in a million dollar house with a white picket fence and an in ground pool. This woman can overlook all of these minor details in her mind and work her way around all of this and trust me she can. She is looking for her chance to step in and make her move like a parasite inside the body of a human being.
The psychology behind this phenomena begins in childhood. She was hurt by the the primary male figure in her life or the male figure who SHOULD have been present in her life. Yes, yes, daddy!! By daddy, I mean her biological father. Here are some of the damaging scenarios:
1. Dad has bailed altogether leaving mommy to raise this poor little girl alone or with a surrogate father. Even if there is a surrogate father, this innocent little girl ponders why her biological father has abandoned her.
2. Dad is physically present some of the time but his unpredictability can be unbearable. Fear and anxiety develop because of a fear of abandonment. As she matures, she is not aware of why her anxiety is present and why it escalates into panic attacks. Fear of abandonment is one of the most terrifying fears women must deal with. This is the driving force behind her not so innocent actions as an adult.
3. Dad is physically present but is emotionally absent and disconnected.
4. Dad may be verbally, mentally, physically, sexually abusive or all of the aforementioned.
All of the scenarios pave the way for this little girl to grow up wanting revenge on dad or the man that abused her. She finds her victim and sets out on her quest to punish him. He is a stand in for daddy. Her pain never goes away, it just morphs. She was left for dead by her dad. What I mean is that he leaves her dead emotionally. She feels worthless without a man in her life. The men she will choose are usually unavailable men (MARRIED MEN) that she tries to make available by destroying and severing the most sacred relationship he is in, his marriage. She couldn't control daddy and make him love her the way she needed to be loved but she can try and control the man in her life now and can try and make him available for her no matter what she has to do.
The hearts of these little victims started to shred like paper put through a paper shredder. Ever wonder why some of these girls become "cutters" or are labeled "emos"? Sexual abuse which we will discuss at a later date in detail is sure to damage a girl's entire being forever. Cutting is usually a hallmark of this type of abuse. Not to put this on the back burner but I think sexual abuse deserves its own time for discussion since it is such a serious violation of a woman in many ways that we will save it for it's own separate post.
Now, beware for we are ruthless and relentless. The deeper the hurt and pain of the woman on this war path, the more dangerous she is. I don't mean dangerous in terms of harming you physically but strictly in terms of turning your life upside down in every way imaginable. You will be mowed down in the process and without any remorse. These women can't see beyond their own pain, hurt, rage, and loss. They simply seek revenge and have fun doing it. She has made a game out of it.
